My best friend was around to my house on a recent Saturday for a long overdue reunion. Adult schedules and the demands of parenthood being what they are, it had taken UN-level negotiations to get our calendars to match.
As we caught up, with a ballgame on in the background, it wasn’t long before our teenaged daughters, who sat politely with us for about as long as they could stand it, excused themselves, and announced they were grabbing coffee at the cafe up the street.
“Be careful,” my friend told his daughter as our kids laced up their sneakers.
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